So it was back to Europe and back for my seventh visit overall (second on this trip!) to what is still very much my favourite place in the world, Stockholm, for Pride week, which I'd first sampled last year. Yes, it lasts a whole week, with cultural and political events and entertainments all over the city, and four days at the Pride Park. One of the things I most love about it is that it's clearly something in which a large proportion of the whole city's population participates to a greater or lesser extent - my straight male friend in Stockholm has told me it's around one-third of the city. Touchingly, every bus in the city flies rainbow flags at the front all week.
As far as I've ever been able to tell, homophobia doesn't really exist all that much in Sweden's big cities; straight men seem by and large to construct their sense of masculinity a bit differently to what we expect in the Anglo-Saxon world, so that they're just not threatened by gay men in the way that still isn't uncommon to a greater or lesser (often unspoken) extent even in English cities. Officially gay venues in Stockholm are actually fairly few and far between; there are however a number of mixed 'gay-straight' venues, and I've been told more than once (albeit judgments do seem to vary a bit on this) that in most non-gay venues, it's pretty safe for a gay guy to try coming on to any guy he likes the look of - because if he isn't gay, he'll most likely just quietly let you know and won't be bothered by it at all. If you've paid for a Pride Park ticket for the whole week, you have to keep on all week the distinctive orange wristband they give you. When last year I joked to my straight male friend that my contingent maybe found it just a little uncomfortable to wander round the city all week wearing a garish marker that we're gay, he genuinely didn't seem to understand what I meant - because of (a) the number of straight people that buy tickets too, and (b) the sheer unlikeliness of any homophobia taking place anywhere.
Once again in Stockholm I was able to hook up with fellow schlager fans from London (Joe, Rob, Dushyan and Leyton... and of course Karl who lives here now) - see my March postings from Stockholm for more explanation of the whole schlager thing if you need it. For those who know Leyton, going out partying with him while on holiday is quite an education, hehe (love you chicken!)...
On the Wednesday night, we went to a club called Ambassadeurs which really fitted the stereotype of a gorgeous (and eye-wateringly expensive... 180 SEK [£16] admission anyone?) club full of gorgeous people. If the stereotypical Scandinavian look is even slightly your type (and as I made very clear in my March postings, it is totally my type), whether you like boys or girls, you like me would have been looking around constantly in a dazed state, trying not to actually drool too much. Really, it was quite incredible. In fairness, none of the Stockholm clubs I'm more familiar with (i.e. Paradise/Kolingsborg, Zipper, Patricia) are really like that - i.e. they certainly have more than their fair share of attractive people but overall the crowd feels more normal - making me conclude that a swanky place like Ambassadeurs must be self-selecting. If you're not in the league of the gorgeous people who frequent it, you're going to feel pretty intimidated and down on yourself quite quickly, and probably hence go somewhere else instead. One thing I really did notice however this time in Stockholm is that while blueish eyes are very common amongst Swedes, naturally blond hair is not as common as the stereotype goes - a lot of gay boys (as well as women) are blond only with the help of a bottle. There also seems to be a slightly peculiar hairstyle (to my eyes) very much in fashion amongst Stockholm gay boys at the moment, involving very short cropped back and sides (probably a number 1) but with quite longish hair on top.
Anyway, I digress. The show at Ambassadeurs that night was Miss Transsexual Sweden which overall was surprisingly entertaining and good fun, with a generally high standard of participants warmly received by the packed crowd. The interval act was a certain Eric Saade. Eric is now a major star in Sweden, yet we'd rocked up at the last minute and managed without any trouble whatsoever to watch his performance all of about 4 feet away from the stage - and this is after I'd met him and got a photo, an autograph and a friendly chat with him (and several other stars) in March. I love the fact that Swedish popstars just seem to be far more accessible, open and down-to-earth, and not at all up themselves about their celebrity status, compared to British and American stars.
The main draw for me and my friends at the Pride Park was the Thursday night which is devoted to schlager, and you can rely on a number of big-name acts appearing. This year's selection (for those who are interested) included Shirley Clamp, Nanne Grönvall, Christer Sjögren, Blond (Melodifestivalen winners in 1997 with the fabulous "Bara hon älskar mig"), Jill Johnson, and Björn Skifs in the opening "classic" section; then in the "contemporary" section after the interval, Elin Lanto, Sofia (yawn), Chiara (an unannounced surprise... wearing an enormous dress with rainbow stripes... they say that vertical stripes are slimming but I couldn't say she looked thin!), Sibel, Jenny Silver (no less peculiar than ever and still wearing that glove), Neo, Hanna Lindblad, Linda Pritchard, Didrik Solli-Tangen, Anna Bergendahl (mutter mutter... I still don't rate her, but she got a rapturous reception), Hera Björk (yay!), and as a final big surprise, Lena Meyer-Landrut, the winner for Germany of Eurovision 2010, who I was particularly delighted to see as I felt it had been a very deserving Eurovision winner. We all had a fantastic time as you might expect. There had been a serious amount of rain on Wednesday night into Thursday, which had turned the Pride Park into a bit of a quagmire. I observed to my posse during schlager night that it was just like being at Glastonbury, but I swear it wasn't me that added, "Yes, but with much better music!" The night was topped off with the packed-out "World's Biggest Schlager After-Party" till 4am in an, erm, museum next to the Pride Park - actually a great venue except that they need to sort out better ventilation - with live PAs by Sarah Dawn Finer and the particularly fabulous Linda Bengtzing.
Other acts at the Pride Park on other nights included Hazell Dean (a bit of an old favourite of mine - she's looking very good for her age if I can say that respectfully, and she's still good at what she does, even if there was clearly limited interest from the sparse Swedish crowd), Emilia, Jessica Folcker, Rednex (whose set seemed to last about three hours... YAWN), Sash!, the Vengaboys (YAY! I still can't believe their comeback single is actually called "A Rocket to Uranus"), Darin, Rebound, Therese, Love Generation and Le Kid. Overall pretty stellar for any Europop fan, so we all enjoyed ourselves a lot.
We were out clubbing till stupidly late every night - that's what we do in Stockholm. In Scandinavia in July, that means that you're walking home in broad daylight. I've always loved this, but it does mess up my body clock something chronic - it's difficult to say the least to get to sleep straight after an eyeful of daylight at 4am or 5am. But then, in Stockholm in Pride week in the summer with schlager on top, I don't really need as much sleep as all that to keep going and energised. Oh and by the way, after my bitching in March about Swedish boys, I'd like to put it on the record that I now know there is at least one attractive Swedish gay boy who is incredibly sweet. :-)
If it seems a bit peculiar to the uninitiated that I'm talking about my favourite city in the world and I'm only talking about clubbing and ridiculous music, well I have done pretty much all of Stockholm's sightseeing in my previous six visits. But every time I go, I do still try to get myself to:
Those brief written descriptions aren't going to effectively convey a lot of the city's appeal to me - it's hard to explain really. Do try to look at some decent photos sometime (I didn't take many this time). The ubiquity of water in the city, which is built across some 14 different islands, has a lot to do with it, especially as it gives a sense of calmness and serenity at various points (such as Riddarholmen) even in the centre. The general beauty of the buildings (albeit there are a few real horrors around as well) also has a lot to do with it, as does the general sense of good organisation... and of style. The Swedes are surely the world leaders in interior design (probably a lot to do with the climate... they're not exactly out of doors a lot in the winter) and right up there in the fashion stakes as well (guess which are my favourite international chains for inexpensive furniture and fashion respectively?!). But I guess that leaves a lot of "je ne sais quoi", and beauty in the eye of the beholder - talking to friends and acquaintances who've also visited Stockholm but aren't schlager freaks, I can tell that they generally think it's nice but are surprised that I'm so passionately insistent it's the number one place in the world. Obviously, I can only plead with everyone reading this to come for a long weekend, try to understand a little of what it is I bang on constantly about, and make up your own minds. I do recommend coming in the summer, preferably within six weeks or so either side of midsummer so that you get the magical effect of the long summer evenings when it barely gets dark at all.
Am I rambling on? Probably, but hopefully that in itself at least conveys a little of how I feel. Anyway, with Stockholm coming straight after the wonderful Canada, you could say that I was feeling pretty good with the world when the time came to move on for the final week of my trip to Finland.
Photos (mainly singers and Pride floats, plus some of the archipelago at the end): http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2393908&id=61207375&l=f8119f351b
At the Pride Parade
As far as I've ever been able to tell, homophobia doesn't really exist all that much in Sweden's big cities; straight men seem by and large to construct their sense of masculinity a bit differently to what we expect in the Anglo-Saxon world, so that they're just not threatened by gay men in the way that still isn't uncommon to a greater or lesser (often unspoken) extent even in English cities. Officially gay venues in Stockholm are actually fairly few and far between; there are however a number of mixed 'gay-straight' venues, and I've been told more than once (albeit judgments do seem to vary a bit on this) that in most non-gay venues, it's pretty safe for a gay guy to try coming on to any guy he likes the look of - because if he isn't gay, he'll most likely just quietly let you know and won't be bothered by it at all. If you've paid for a Pride Park ticket for the whole week, you have to keep on all week the distinctive orange wristband they give you. When last year I joked to my straight male friend that my contingent maybe found it just a little uncomfortable to wander round the city all week wearing a garish marker that we're gay, he genuinely didn't seem to understand what I meant - because of (a) the number of straight people that buy tickets too, and (b) the sheer unlikeliness of any homophobia taking place anywhere.
On the Wednesday night, we went to a club called Ambassadeurs which really fitted the stereotype of a gorgeous (and eye-wateringly expensive... 180 SEK [£16] admission anyone?) club full of gorgeous people. If the stereotypical Scandinavian look is even slightly your type (and as I made very clear in my March postings, it is totally my type), whether you like boys or girls, you like me would have been looking around constantly in a dazed state, trying not to actually drool too much. Really, it was quite incredible. In fairness, none of the Stockholm clubs I'm more familiar with (i.e. Paradise/Kolingsborg, Zipper, Patricia) are really like that - i.e. they certainly have more than their fair share of attractive people but overall the crowd feels more normal - making me conclude that a swanky place like Ambassadeurs must be self-selecting. If you're not in the league of the gorgeous people who frequent it, you're going to feel pretty intimidated and down on yourself quite quickly, and probably hence go somewhere else instead. One thing I really did notice however this time in Stockholm is that while blueish eyes are very common amongst Swedes, naturally blond hair is not as common as the stereotype goes - a lot of gay boys (as well as women) are blond only with the help of a bottle. There also seems to be a slightly peculiar hairstyle (to my eyes) very much in fashion amongst Stockholm gay boys at the moment, involving very short cropped back and sides (probably a number 1) but with quite longish hair on top.
Anyway, I digress. The show at Ambassadeurs that night was Miss Transsexual Sweden which overall was surprisingly entertaining and good fun, with a generally high standard of participants warmly received by the packed crowd. The interval act was a certain Eric Saade. Eric is now a major star in Sweden, yet we'd rocked up at the last minute and managed without any trouble whatsoever to watch his performance all of about 4 feet away from the stage - and this is after I'd met him and got a photo, an autograph and a friendly chat with him (and several other stars) in March. I love the fact that Swedish popstars just seem to be far more accessible, open and down-to-earth, and not at all up themselves about their celebrity status, compared to British and American stars.
Mr Eric Saade, up close at Ambassadeurs :)
The main draw for me and my friends at the Pride Park was the Thursday night which is devoted to schlager, and you can rely on a number of big-name acts appearing. This year's selection (for those who are interested) included Shirley Clamp, Nanne Grönvall, Christer Sjögren, Blond (Melodifestivalen winners in 1997 with the fabulous "Bara hon älskar mig"), Jill Johnson, and Björn Skifs in the opening "classic" section; then in the "contemporary" section after the interval, Elin Lanto, Sofia (yawn), Chiara (an unannounced surprise... wearing an enormous dress with rainbow stripes... they say that vertical stripes are slimming but I couldn't say she looked thin!), Sibel, Jenny Silver (no less peculiar than ever and still wearing that glove), Neo, Hanna Lindblad, Linda Pritchard, Didrik Solli-Tangen, Anna Bergendahl (mutter mutter... I still don't rate her, but she got a rapturous reception), Hera Björk (yay!), and as a final big surprise, Lena Meyer-Landrut, the winner for Germany of Eurovision 2010, who I was particularly delighted to see as I felt it had been a very deserving Eurovision winner. We all had a fantastic time as you might expect. There had been a serious amount of rain on Wednesday night into Thursday, which had turned the Pride Park into a bit of a quagmire. I observed to my posse during schlager night that it was just like being at Glastonbury, but I swear it wasn't me that added, "Yes, but with much better music!" The night was topped off with the packed-out "World's Biggest Schlager After-Party" till 4am in an, erm, museum next to the Pride Park - actually a great venue except that they need to sort out better ventilation - with live PAs by Sarah Dawn Finer and the particularly fabulous Linda Bengtzing.
A little damp but very happy during schlager night at the Pride Park
Other acts at the Pride Park on other nights included Hazell Dean (a bit of an old favourite of mine - she's looking very good for her age if I can say that respectfully, and she's still good at what she does, even if there was clearly limited interest from the sparse Swedish crowd), Emilia, Jessica Folcker, Rednex (whose set seemed to last about three hours... YAWN), Sash!, the Vengaboys (YAY! I still can't believe their comeback single is actually called "A Rocket to Uranus"), Darin, Rebound, Therese, Love Generation and Le Kid. Overall pretty stellar for any Europop fan, so we all enjoyed ourselves a lot.
We were out clubbing till stupidly late every night - that's what we do in Stockholm. In Scandinavia in July, that means that you're walking home in broad daylight. I've always loved this, but it does mess up my body clock something chronic - it's difficult to say the least to get to sleep straight after an eyeful of daylight at 4am or 5am. But then, in Stockholm in Pride week in the summer with schlager on top, I don't really need as much sleep as all that to keep going and energised. Oh and by the way, after my bitching in March about Swedish boys, I'd like to put it on the record that I now know there is at least one attractive Swedish gay boy who is incredibly sweet. :-)
If it seems a bit peculiar to the uninitiated that I'm talking about my favourite city in the world and I'm only talking about clubbing and ridiculous music, well I have done pretty much all of Stockholm's sightseeing in my previous six visits. But every time I go, I do still try to get myself to:
- Riddarholmen, possibly my favourite spot in the world to sit and contemplate - it's a tiny island with a massive church and government buildings but no permanent population, but a truly heart-tuggingly stunning view across the water;
- Monteliusvägen, the highest spot in the city on Södermalm, offering fantastic views back over the water across Gamla Stan, Norrmalm and Kungsholmen;
- Gamla Stan, the wonderful medieval old city, the largest preserved one in Europe, complete with narrow streets it's great to let yourself get lost in; and
- the waterfront in the heart of the city all around the Kungsträdgården area - this is where I first really fell in love with the city on my first visit, and that passion hasn't gone away.
Sunset in the Stockholm Archipelago... Not much matches this.
Am I rambling on? Probably, but hopefully that in itself at least conveys a little of how I feel. Anyway, with Stockholm coming straight after the wonderful Canada, you could say that I was feeling pretty good with the world when the time came to move on for the final week of my trip to Finland.
Photos (mainly singers and Pride floats, plus some of the archipelago at the end): http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2393908&id=61207375&l=f8119f351b